03 June 2008
♥ in light of a number of recent events:
In my experience, it is difficult for two people to stay faithful to one another for any extended period of time. I have been cheated on by nearly every boyfriend I've ever had, and I'm sure there are plenty of times I don't even know about. (If you are privy to this kind of information, please note that this is not a solicitation for stories about the escapades of my various exes: please don't tell me; I don't want to know.)
I don't really have any regrets; after all, I suppose it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved, and yadda yadda yadda. It's a funny thing, though, cheating. It is often unexpected by the cheatee (as opposed to the cheater, you understand), almost never the result of much forethought or planning by any party, and invariably causes suffering and heartache for one or more of the parties involved.
So what I'm wondering is this: in this time when everyone seems to be cutting corners, is it possible, I mean really possible, for two people to love and trust one another unconditionally? I'm beginning to think that perhaps monogamy isn't a possibility at all, at least not in this generation. I suppose it's because we're young and not sure what we want, but where does the line become blurred? When does someone decide that what they want right now, right this minute, is more important than the love and trust of their significant other? I can vouch for the fact that no feeling is worse than the sinking one that sets in when you realize you've been cheated , and I can imagine that the guilt caused by cheating does something awful to a person as well.
I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. I guess all I can do is take care not to be the cause of that kind of pain, and hope that in this age of infidelity, someone else is thinking the same thing.
I don't really have any regrets; after all, I suppose it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved, and yadda yadda yadda. It's a funny thing, though, cheating. It is often unexpected by the cheatee (as opposed to the cheater, you understand), almost never the result of much forethought or planning by any party, and invariably causes suffering and heartache for one or more of the parties involved.
So what I'm wondering is this: in this time when everyone seems to be cutting corners, is it possible, I mean really possible, for two people to love and trust one another unconditionally? I'm beginning to think that perhaps monogamy isn't a possibility at all, at least not in this generation. I suppose it's because we're young and not sure what we want, but where does the line become blurred? When does someone decide that what they want right now, right this minute, is more important than the love and trust of their significant other? I can vouch for the fact that no feeling is worse than the sinking one that sets in when you realize you've been cheated , and I can imagine that the guilt caused by cheating does something awful to a person as well.
I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. I guess all I can do is take care not to be the cause of that kind of pain, and hope that in this age of infidelity, someone else is thinking the same thing.
6/03/2008
